Fight Rules

It’s a difficult thing, in a relationship, to not be selfish.  It’s hard to think about the other person first, every time, without fail.  It’s hard to put your personal desires, wishes and needs on the back burner so you can aid in the other person receiving theirs.  [I am much less than perfect at these things.]  Because of this, fights/disagreements/arguments (however you want to phrase it) happen.  There are some important rules that a man should live by when he experiences a fight in his relationship.

1. Remain Calm, even if she doesn’t
2. Listen twice as much as your speak, even if she doesn’t
3. Never interrupt, even if she does
4. Leave your pride out of it, even if she doesn’t
5. Tell her that you hear what she’s saying (and actually listen!)
6. Validate her point of view, even if she doesn’t validate yours
7. Never cuss
8. Never EVER get physical!
9. Never scream/yell/raise your voice, even if she does
10. Never fight in front of the kids

And most importantly… Always make the choice to love.  (BTW, love is a verb.)