Imagining Bras… a Facebook Stunt
Today, female Faceb
ook users everywhere united against an evil that has claimed the lives of many women, breast cancer. What many of them don’t know, is that their unity may have led some men into serious sin. Here’s what happened. Women on Facebook sent around messages among themselves (attempting to leave all males out of the loop) so that all women would put their current bra color as their status update. Obviously, men caught wind of this, and the secret is out of the bag.
I don’t have a problem with uniting behind a cause. I don’t have a problem with women wearing bras (I prefer that they do, for modesty’s sake, and their comfort, or so I’m told). What I have a problem with is when women don’t actively insist on proper behavior from men. You’re probably thinking to yourself, “How did he jump to that ideal from where he was?” Easily. Women should require of men an attitude of service and an attitude of perfection. When women allow men to act in certain inappropriate ways, it opens the door for men everywhere to “blow it”. WOMEN, you play a role in men being TrueMen!
Women, when you talk about your bra color, you’re not merely mentioning a bra color, but you’re VIVIDLY describing your breast(s) to a man! I know it sounds crazy, but your “harmless” act of awareness probably caused many men to sin, I hate to say. For most guys, they don’t see or think of a bra and stop simply at the fabric and color. A bra is an intimate thing and makes a man think about other intimate things. I have to break it to you, men don’t simply stop at the color.
I wanted to share the thoughts of a Naval Officer on this topic: “I know breast cancer awareness is a good thing, but I don’t think the mission was accomplished. Either 1) guys won’t figure it out and they will move on with watching the BCS Football Game, or 2) they will pick up on and be drawn down a slippery slope to sin. I am sure the women did not have this as their intent; they were trying to be fun, flirty and mysterious. I just cannot condone it. I personally have not struggled with fantasies for some time, but I led Bible studies for two years while in college, and I know how other men struggle with it. I guess I just wanted women to know that some men struggle with it, and this is not helping.”
Take heed. And, on a related side note, did you all realize that if women stopped being in pornography, it would stop?
Man up!
MAN! You completely stole my blog post! I was going to do this, but I literally spent most of the night and day talking about this with women who WHOLLY disagreed! Plus I had to go to adoration. I didn’t read ANYTHING but your title, so I plan on posting about it still, and when I am finished I will check back to see how similar we are. I have a feeling just by the fact that you posted that we are on the same track.
I will link to your post after I do mine as well.
I agree, although many women might have been doing it for a good reason. I get the idea that just as many did not. Women with no obvious interest in helping breast cancer in other ways had no problem letting everyone know what bra they are wearing, And from what Ive seen, in detail.
I agree with you. For those reasons, I did not join the cause. It’s one thing to cause cancer awareness, but another thing to cause sin.
Just discovered your blog today through onebillionstories.com. Thanks for your ministry!
Wow, after reading this I’m glad I didn’t participate. I was afraid that it would lead men to bad thoughts and I guess I was right. I didn’t understand how that promoted breast cancer awareness anyway…. Thanks for posting this.
Thank you for writing on this topic! So many of my fellow women were posting their bra colors in a way that was meant to be good, but what were almost worst were the comments others left, because those went into more detail than the original status.
Your ministry is extremely appreciated, thank you!
Amen! I love using facebook, but I didn’t participate in this latest stunt. Beside from the near occasion of sin aspect… um….. what good did it do? Awareness about breast cancer is great, and a noble goal, but there are far better ways in which to reach that goal.
“Sin”?? WTF? Isn’t that just human nature that you are trying to supress? yes, don’t encourage men to behave poorly, like teasing them to the point of rape, or whatever, but don’t get your boxer shorts in a knot if women are making you guys feel randy. It’s called being human, and no amount of labels, such as “sin” is going to change that. We are all just animals at the end of the day!
PS, I did not participate in the above stunt, for the record.
I participated in this, and I have to say that the thought never occured to me that men would “sin”. If they did, then that is between him and the Lord. Its totally rediculous to point fingers at us who truly put it there for the RIGHT reasons and to call us bad for “causing men to sin”. Also, regarding the “porn” statement, look into the mirror men, you’re just as guilty as the next!
I agree with the substance of your argument. Men are visual and women should respect that fact. However, there is a deeper issue here besides the fact that men are visual, and that is why I am taking issue with how you stated the sentence on porn.
While I agree that if no women were in porn it most of it wouldn’t be there, that is not the right way to say it. Porn is the fault of both and a lot of the women involved in it were mistreated in some way and have a jaded view of sexuality. This is a cycle, not simply a matter of ‘well men are just like that.’ Our society has a serious problem with attaching disordered sexual connotations to everything and yes, that includes breasts (the primary function of breasts are to feed children. I am not denying secondary functions, just saying…) We have lost innocence and that is the real problem with porn and with the issue of the bra colors.
Please allow me to clarify what I meant when I said the statement about women being in porn. It was NOT to imply that men don’t have an integral role in the evil of pornography. It was to state, along with the temptations that women are to men in general, that women should have a higher standard for themselves. In no way was my statement even beginning to delve into the issue of men and their role in both the production of or consumption of pornography.