The Female Version of Cultural Manliness
Have you seen the trailer for the upcoming [atrocity] “Sex and the City 2”? I’ve unfortunately seen the trailer 3 or 4 times now and
have been more and more disgusted by it every time. I can proudly say that I haven’t seen the first movie (although I know it did really well at the box office) and I never intend to watch it. The trailer, as well as the name of the movie/show, tells me plenty. What it tells me is that the characters in the movie are out for, what I’m going to refer to as, “Cultural Femininity”. For those who may not know, I use a term coined “Cultural Manliness” to describe the world’s view of manliness… that the more power, money, sex and stuff a male has, the more manly he is. On all levels, I tear this idea down, showing that it is riddled with emptiness, loneliness, despair and sorrow. The same goes for “Cultural Femininity”.
The trailer depicts the characters in the movie gallivanting around the world, searching for meaningless sex, pleasure and anything else that seems ‘fun’. The trailer attempts to glorify promiscuity, drunkenness, infidelity, homosexuality and the glamor and allure of money. A tag line used in the trailer says “Discover how much fun forbidden can be.” The trailer tells me that many people (women and men) will have their view of marriage ‘shaken up’ a bit… which is most definitely not needed in our culture. The four women in the movie are female versions of “cultural manliness”. In the same way that “cultural manliness” ends in emptiness, loneliness, despair and sorrow, so too does “cultural femininity.”
Movies like this make this behavior seem ‘normal’, as if ‘everyone is doing it’, and in fact, many people live like this. Movies like this degrade women, encourage all the poor behavior mentioned above and highly encourage men to be “culturally manly”. It really is a shame.
TrueMan up!
Thoughts from the Men’s Conference
This past Saturday, March 20th, men’s conferences took place in numerous cities all around the country. From comments, updates, posts and blogs that I’ve seen, it appears that most of the conferences were huge successes. The same can be said for the men’s conference in Colorado Springs, emcee’d by my friend Sean Dalton. The speakers (for the most part) did a pretty good job. I’m sure that many of the men would be able to find something they would have done differently, but overall, I think it was a success. Here’s a recap of some of my favorite parts from the conference.
Dennis Murphy, a local Licensed Professional Counselor and teacher at the local Catholic high school, gave an incredible talk on the differences between men and women. What I liked about what he did was that he used scientific knowledge of the brain to explain the neurological, physical, emotional and spiritual differences. There’s a clear difference between the genders, and in order for the next generation(s) of boys to become men, we must allow them (encourage them, assist them, enliven them) to embrace their masculinity. There’s also a big role in leading them toward masculinity. Instead of suppressing a boy’s innate desire to turn a stick into a sword, bat, gun or bazooka, we should encourage this… not so he can be violent (unless the situation warrants violence for the protection of the defenseless) but so that he can understand how to protect and defend, as God commanded Adam to do in the Garden of Eden.
Later in the day, Dr. Tim Gray gave an incredible talk on “being the first over the wall”, an ancient Roman soldier’s goal when charging an enemy fortress. He encouraged the men in the audience to be men of action, to stop complaining and take the lead. The Roman soldier who got over the wall first won a golden crown, for his heroism, abilities in war and his leadership. We men have the same task, but our crown is in Heaven. He also spoke about what St. Thomas Aquinas wrote as “effeminacy”, basically calling out every and any man in the place who chooses comfort and pleasure over doing what is right. He lumped himself in that group, on occasion, but at the same time showed that we are all growing and changing, learning from our mistakes, and that we should be striving to put comfort and pleasure behind what we ought to do.
Other speakers included Bill & Billy Moyer, a powerful father-son duo that emphasized the power of forgiveness, leadership and goal setting. Unfortunately, I didn’t get to hear their entire talk, although what I did hear was very good. Check them out at their website by clicking HERE. We also heard from Curtis Martin, founder and President of FOCUS. 
His talk was short and to the point, and great, I might add. Curtis encouraged all the men to “get up off our fat butts” and do something. He spoke of how there’s crisis everywhere and how the crisis will only stop when someone steps up and does something about it. He told a story of how at the end of life, we all sit before the judgement seat and will have to answer for our actions in life. What are we doing? Is it worthy of Heaven? Are we sitting around complaining, and not doing? Are we waiting around for someone to lead us? Are we making excuses? His encouragement to get up after we fail was great for me to hear. Sometimes, I think that this website, my speaking engagements, my graduate studies, my crazy 60 hours per week schedule at work and all the “other” stuff I do isn’t really worth it. That sort of mentality comes straight from the evil deceiver. We have to keep getting up and moving forward.
I want to congratulate the Diocese of Colorado Springs, especially Christian Meert and Rob Faughnan (two friends of mine) who were integral to the conference, for a job well done.
Man up!
