Porn – Out of Sight, Out of Mind?

I’m now a couple of weeks into my new career as a teacher.  I’m really enjoying it, and the kids are amazing.  We have great conversations about the faith, and I really believe that I’m reaching them.  As I consider each of my classes and each of my students, I haven’t yet breached the subject of pornography.  I’m working now to form bonds of trust and mutual respect, and want to work towards gaining moral authority with my students.  We’ll get there, and I don’t think it will take long.

In one class specifically, but in all seven of my classes generally, I’ll be diving into the topic of The Theology of the Body, and when we dive into that topic, we must (absolutely MUST) discuss the topic of pornography.  So I’ve been thinking about how I’m going to breach the subject, and how I’m going to deal with the responses.  I’ve presented to middle and high school kids plenty of times on the topic, but never in the classroom setting… always in retreat and/or talk situations.  This is going to be much different.

This got me thinking… if parents don’t fail with pornography use themselves, and also don’t know whether or not their children do, does the topic ever cross their mind?  Is pornography an “out of sight, out of mind” problem?  I know it crosses mine because I’m aware of the realities in my own life (past use), as well as the realities of the industry and the prevalence.  Here are some distinct groups when it comes to porn awareness.

1. Users: obviously, they’re highly aware of porn and are abusing it frequently.  It’s on their mind, if not constantly, very regularly.
2. Those fighting: highly aware and trying to create awareness in others.
3. Those in recovery: depending on the length of recovery, it may not be a frequent awareness, but they’re aware.
4. Those oblivious: have no knowledge of the topic, aren’t aware at all.
5. Those in denial: refusal to believe that porn is actually a problem.

What group do you fall in?  Are you a man using porn?  Does it rule your life?  What are you doing about it if this is you?  Or, are you in recovery?  Perhaps you’re oblivious and don’t know much about porn.  (You’ve come to a good site to learn more about the truths of pornography!  Just do a search in the white box.)  Are you a parent who is in denial of how bad pornography is and how likely your child is using it?  Wherever you might be, please continue to educate yourself on the matter and realize that, even if porn is “out of sight”, it can’t be “out of mind.”

I hope to be creating some good new resources for parents on the topic of fighting pornography, and I want to get them out to you very soon.  In the meantime, please look through my site for help.  Email info@truemanhood.com for specific questions.

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“How Many Performers Must Become Infected?”

There are many things seriously wrong with this article (below) from the LA Times.  Not grammatical errors, or sentence structure problems – real problems, with the content and the attitude.  I am sickened by the lack of respect for human dignity that our society demonstrates over and over.  As if the other proven problems with the pornography industry aren’t enough (abuse, STDs, rape, domestic disputes, failed/troubled/destroyed marriages, damaged children, and so on) they are spreading killer diseases like HIV around.  Obviously, this is not the first case of a porn actor/actress with HIV.  How degrading to be “a generational partner.”

I have so many problems, I have to respond below in RED.  The article is in GRAY italics.

(LOS ANGELES TIMES) After an adult film performer (performer? – these are far from performances) tested HIV positive, production has ceased for the billion dollar porn industry (let’s be clear… it’s not the billion as in one billion, but as in 100+ billion dollars. No small potatoes) across Los Angeles until further testing can confirm the results, an industry trade group said.

“Until we know for sure, we’ve asked the industry to have a moratorium on production,” said Diane Duke, executive director of the Free Speech Coalition, a Canoga Park-based porn industry trade group. (Free Speech – laughable!  Porn isn’t free speech, it’s addictive, harmful and detrimental to society.  It should not be protected under the 1st Amendment.  In fact, all production and distribution of hardcore pornography is ILLEGAL!  It’s just not regulated, nor is it prosecuted.)

Duke’s group became aware of the possible HIV case Saturday. Duke would not say how her group learned about the possible HIV case.

Adult film production companies across the San Fernando Valley were notified Monday morning that a performer had tested positive and they were urged to temporarily halt productions until further tests were completed.

Duke said company officials she spoke with agreed to the temporary shutdown.

The performer’s name, age or gender has not been released and further testing will likely be completed within a week.

Currently, performers who had sex with the potentially infected person are in the process of being notified. (Again, how degrading!  Pray for the men and women involved in this horrible industry.)

“Retesting and confirmation is underway as is the process of identifying and testing first- and second- generation partners,” Duke said, referring to those who had sex with the person who tested HIV positive or with one of that person’s sex partners. (This should be disturbing to everyone.  People should realize that sexual involvement, at any stage and in any fashion and with anyone, is serious and should be kept sacred.  It’s not about just one or two, but continues on with everyone else that those one or two are sexually involved with in the future.  When someone is bouncing around from bed to bed to bed, they are not only effecting that person, but everyone who comes after them and on down the line.  Marriages are being negatively affected because of this snowballing momentum.)

Adult film performers must be tested every 30 days and show proof of a clean test before they perform, according to voluntary industry standards. (I cynically doubt that the industry is regulating itself like this in all locations.  In fact, I am so cynical about any regulation within the industry that it’s an outrage that they even have “industry standards”. Sickening.)

Michael Weinstein, president of the AIDS Healthcare Foundation, said the latest possible HIV infection showed an “outrageous disregard for the health and safety of performers and the community at large” and demonstrates why testing is not an adequate substitute for condoms. He called on L.A. city officials to pull all adult film permits until condoms are mandated. (The only adequate substitute is CHASTITY!  Not condoms.  Living chastity is the one and only answer to our culture’s sex issues, which translate into many other areas and issues.  Chastity is the key.)

“How many performers must become infected with HIV and other serious STDs before the industry will clean up its act and government will do the right thing?” he said. (That’s right… when is the US GOVERNMENT going to do the right thing?!?!?  It’s already in our laws as ILLEGAL!  When is the US Attorney General (Eric Holder) going to do something about this industry that is negatively impacted our world?!)

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Out of the Darkness

There’s a new documentary film coming out in 2011 called “Out of the Darkness”. The film is about the pornography industry and the story of a former pornstar named Shelley Lubben. Shelley shares the hard-to-hear truths about the industry and how it is affecting the women involved.

Mark Houck, Co-Founder of The King’s Men, is featured in the documentary. Here’s the trailer. If you can’t view the video below, click HERE.

Out of the Darkness Trailer from Anteroom Pictures on Vimeo.

“In the sex industry, every single day was traumatic…” – Shelley Lubben.  Find out more about Shelley HERE.

We have to do something about this.

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