Always Being Watched
A TrueMan realizes that he’s always being watched. He realizes that he’s always in the microscope of someone else… either trying to learn from him or trying to pick apart his actions, words, attitudes, reactions and leadership. How does a man deal with this pressure? How does a man cope with the daunting task of never messing up? The answer, in this case, is not simple. The answer is a unique answer for each and every man out there, because each and every man has a different demeanor, perspective, outlook and characteristics.
Here’s a few things to remember that might make it easier:
- Be yourself. If you’re really striving to be a man, you’ll succeed here. Strive for virtue and keep your eyes on Christ.
- Be concerned, each and every day, with being better and better. This might include professionally, personally, spiritually, physically, etc. If you are always striving for perfection, your mind is always geared towards success.
- Think. Thinking prevents many bad choices throughout the day – do it.
- Pray. A man of prayer is grounded in Christ – this helps you see clearly to make the tough decisions and to always stand strong.
- Be humble. People are waiting to pick apart any little piece of you they can… why give them any reason to be right? Be relentless in humility.
There’s a reality here that can really bite someone… if you fail in an area of your life, and someone who is watching you sees it, there’s a long road ahead to mend the impression that they now have of you. First impressions are huge. Continuing impressions are huge. Also, please note that “failing in life”, here, means that you took a mistake to the extreme. For instance: you’re the leader of a group of students against drunk driving and you get hit with a DUI. Or, you speak about purity/chastity then get your girlfriend pregnant. These are the types of failings that push people away, that encourage people to use the word hypocrite. All in all, you can pick yourself up and move on, but the impact you have on others will be lasting. Be smart, make good decisions.
Man up!
Superman Dates
I came across this video from BlueFishTV… funny stuff.
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This lighthearted approach to making a few jokes about dating brings up some good points:
1. Dating is difficult – I’m married and boy, am I glad I don’t have to date any more. The pressure, the games, the awkwardness. Yuck. Everyone is looking for love, which is a good thing. Just know that it’s hard for both parties.
2. The success/failure of the date is typically based on the behavior of the male – Ladies, a man should be out to find you, win you over and have you fall in love with him. It’s a quest for men, so let them do it. This does NOT mean that you should lower your standards. If some guy “blew your head right off…”, you better walk away a little faster than she did.
3. Just because you’re “super” doesn’t mean that you’re good at dating – don’t expect miracles just because some guy is popular, handsome or powerful (in one way or another). Being super doesn’t make you a good match or a good boyfriend and it won’t make you a good spouse either.
Man up!
